Hello guyzz!!! Let’s pretend like I haven’t been away for the longest time and just continue where we stopped about a month ago.Well, I have had the longest days turned to weeks in this month of June; from writing exams to prepping myself for my graduation (story for another day). Yes!!! As I write/as you read this post, I am a graduate and yet to be employed. Hahahah. Well if you follow me on Instagram, I put up a post challenging myself to put up a post everyday till the month ends and today’s already day 2, I slept throughout day 1. Don’t blame me, I was really tired from all the celebrating I had to do on the 20th.

So while I was battling and overcoming both emotionally and educationally in the last couple o’ weeks, I was very glad to have my friends around me, they made it so much easier for me to cope. I recently read something my little friend who used to be my school daughter in high school put up on her WhatsApp story and here it goes

Who are your friends?
What are they like?
What defines a true friendship?
What does it mean to be a good friend?
Do you comfort them with lies but never hurt them with the truth?

Well let me give you my two cents on friendship; friendship is a relationship of mutual affection between people, friendship is a stronger form of interpersonal bond than an association. True friends influence those with whom they associate to rise higher. You can have an ugly friend, it’s cool but when you have a friend with an ugly character, that where there is a problem. Please advice them to change because you don’t know what people associate you with because of your friends. Choose friends who share your values so you can strengthen and encourage each other in living high standards. It doesn’t stop at just posting each other’s pictures with captions of “I love you”; but show that love, let them feel the love, care for each other… don’t talk down on each other or behind each other. This is the worst thing you can do to a person you call your friend. Finally, to have a good friend, you have to be a good friend. That’s all I have on friendship today tomorrow I’ll educate you on drugs. Bye

(Everyone meet Bertillia, the inspiration behind today’s post)

After reading the above stories, I reflected a lot on my friends and started evaluating my relationship with each of them, I couldn’t be more grateful for the people around me.
I can’t start mentioning all of them but they are truly gold, my sail with each of the various and very different ships has been worth it, I have been uplifted, learnt how to cultivate and master habits like patience, platonic and agape love on a different level.
Also, just to add this, aside all the ‘lift each other up’ and ‘help each other be better, learn to check on your friends; I remembered few weeks ago, a very good friend of mine named John was supposed to get something done for me, I waited for him all day till it was late in the night and I decided to call him; I was ready to start shouting and raining all of the “are you even a good person” epistle but his voice sounded weak and he told me he was in the hospital, I thought he was joking cos if you know this guy, you’ll understand. Apparently he was admitted that day in the hospital for food poisoning.

Another episode was few days ago on my graduation, I did not see my closest friend Philo. I was mad, I wanted to cry to be very honest because she didn’t even send a congratulatory message. Ooooh I was ready to pluck her eyes out and I already prepared my epistle again on how she was a bad friend; just for me to find out her phone fell and got broken so she couldn’t keep in touch with me.

I know everyone likes to take the weekend out to rest especially on their own but this weekend, check on your friends, call them, text them if possible take them on a treat and show them you care, pray for them cos you can’t tell all they go through just by looking at them and if you can, don’t be ignorant about it, show your love and remember to be a good friend.

till next time
T.Gold Okorode

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